
At school, when children are not making progress towards their academic and behavior goals, I rewrite them, breaking each into smaller steps. Maybe I am not excited about my health goals because I have guilt associations every time I think about them. I feel guilty because I am not making much progress. When I break students' goals into smaller pieces and they start experiencing success, the momentum builds and often they are able to finally move on productively. So now I'm thinking, "how do I break this thing down?"
I absolutely love my wii. I have had great success with the wii fit in the past. I was able to get a streak going where I checked in and did at least 1 minute of exercise each day. It had amazing benefits to my cholesterol and blood sugar levels. It was psychologically comforting too. I knew I could count on mysef to do at least one good thing every day. One day last summer I broke the streak and have not been able to get it back.
I have a yoga DVD called Heavyweight Yoga II. It is specifically designed for people who are overweight. Doing the workout is calming and comforting. It gives me relief from the pain in my back. Finishing the hour long session gives me a sense of accomplishment and pride. Often when I think to do the DVD, I also think of some work I should be doing and feel guilty for wanting to spend an hour on something I enjoy.
I live in a neighborhood with beautiful walking paths. All I have to do is walk out my back gate. When I walk regularly on the paths, I get a sense of connection to my community. I feel more like I belong for some reason. I don't feel so isolated from the neighbors. I see people who encourage me. Interestingly, the reason I don't walk anymore is because my dogs get upset when I take turns walking them. I can't manage all three together. My guess is that if I could handle their crying and barking for a week or so, they would figure out the routine and calm down. I just need the guts to do it.
As far as food goes, I have had success with feeling more clear headed with The 30 Day Vegan Challenge. I felt good about what I was eating and drastically cut down on fast food. I didn't have as much choice in my diet and was not as obsessed with what to eat next. I've also had success with the SparkPeople website. I felt more in control as I tracked my food and exercise. It was also interesting to me to see what kind of nutrients I lacked at the end of the day. I also tried Weight Watchers and enjoyed the meetings and social support. I didn't lose much weight, but was at least more conscious of my food choices.
So what went wrong with dieting in the past? I stopped the vegan diet after the 30 days, thinking I would have to spend less time preparing food if I could eat out more. I stopped "sparking" because I felt like I was spending too much time on the website tracking, reading articles, and trying to earn more sparkpoints. I quit Weight Watchers because I started feeling guilty every week when I went to the meetings and didn't show a weight loss.
So . . . looking back over everything I've said here, it looks to me like the one thing I need the most is permission. I need permission to spend the time. I need permission to stop worrying what others think (even my dogs!) I think I need to cut work off at 6:00 and give myself the rest of the evening to do what makes me feel healthy and strong.
I don't have to do everything at once. I need to give myself a break. Stop being so judgmental. Some little steps might be to quit work by 6:00 every night and not bring any home. Or resume my one minute nightly minimum for my wii. Maybe walk my dogs to the mailbox and back so they get used to walking one at a time. Maybe allow myself some time to play around on the SparkPeople website without requiring myself to track every single thing. I have got to lighten up on myself and relax some. My mile long to do list needs to be simplified.
My hope is that when I get healthier, I can get more work done and be able to set more personal goals. I think I will get started today by taking the cart full of work I brought home for the weekend out to the car to get it out of the way. Then I'll run to the grocery store around the corner to get some healthy food and snacks to take to work with me tomorrow. It is time to start taking care of myself!